E Ducar teenagers is not a task that requires highly specialized expertise, and on most occasions, parents will be enough to throw common sense and our own experience . However, at other times we can feel somewhat disoriented and lost, and the availability of some information and some advice will be a great help. For example, knowing the changes brought on by adolescence, or know how to improve communication and resolve conflicts. You also receive some specific guidelines may positively influence our parenting skills.
But not far away when we have to face decisions about everyday parent-child issues on which recipes are rarely effective. For example, what time should we allow to return to our child home at night on weekends. Or when you are ready to go with friends to a concert or nightclub. Can we allow him to go camping with his group to spend the weekend?
Many questions to which we often feel disoriented, as it combines the satisfaction of new needs that emerge from puberty with control measures, of which we are responsible to ensure their safety is not simple. And it is a questions parents frequently ask.
It is difficult to give a concrete answer as there will be numerous factors that must be taken into account: age, maturity level, confidence in the group, local customs, the time of year ... etc. In such cases, my recommendation is always the same, talk to the parents of some of the friends or companions of our children, and try to reach a consensual agreement. Dialogue, joint reflection and exchange of views may be helpful to address doubts and reach a decision, although it will never be the only possible, at least be based on the opinion of several parents, each contributing their values, their knowledge and experience. Moreover, it is likely that this decision affects a whole group of teenage friends more readily accepted by all. At last, after all, if everyone has to go home at 2 am, what the hell is going to make one of them alone in the streets until 3. And much will be boring going camping alone.
So my suggestion on this is clear: trying to make contact with parents of some of the friends of our children, at times we deem appropriate, meet them for coffee, authors discuss at length about these issues and try consensus that is acceptable to all. I did, and I think it worked well.
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